We really need to throttle our server load, but we have users grumbling about dropped POP3 and IMAP connections to our qmail server.
That's strange, as qmail only handles SMTP connections. Courier IMAP is the POP3/IMAP server. Courier doesn't run under xinetd, but has its own MAXPERIP settings. Check out the pop3d(-ssl) and imapd(-ssl) files in /etc/courier-imap/. Restart the courier-imap service after any changes.
I am worried that if i was to reduce xinetd to accept less than "UNLIMITED" smtp connections, that these problems would grow ... what is a recommended reduction of UNLIMITED to (200, 300, or what?) and what should i set the load average to ... 2 or 2.5? What exactly does that mean as it doesn't really say in man xinetd.conf?
Your server can't accept an UNLIMITED number of connections anyway (try it
I notice that there is also an poppassd_psa xinetd file which is limited to 100 connections ... could this be where our dropped connections are coming in?
This service handles password changes AFAIK, so no, probably not.